1-Spending Quality Time With Your Children They say it's not enough just to be physically around them--you need to be with them completely. This means that electronics need to be out of both of your hands. By communicating with them openly, listening carefully and doing the things they like together, your child will not only love you more, but will also learn how to be a considerate and caring person, and remember their childhood as a positive experience.
This is the foundation of it all. Your kid would very much prefer (above everything else) having a real person to talk to and to share ideas and experiences with, even if they may not seem aware of it. Ask them how their day was, listen carefully and discuss the dilemmas they may have in their head... Read them a book before bed (or do it together during the day if they are in the mood for it). Just be around them completely and acknowledge their emotions.
2-Let your kids see a strong moral role model and mentor in you:
Children learn the most from their surroundings especially at younger ages. What you do is what they will become. Pay attention to your manners and actions and be ready to admit your mistakes.
- admit your mistakes, apologize if you need to and share how you will learn from your mistake
3-Teach your child to care for others and set high ethical expectations:
- change the message you send them on a daily basis from
"The most important thing is that you are happy" to "The most important thing is that you're KIND and you're happy."
- encourage your kid to "work it out" before deciding whether they should quit a sports team, band or friendship. Have them consider the consequences of their action on others as well as them self.
4-Encourage kids to practice appreciation and gratitude:
A child that is not spoiled is a child that acknowledges the roles of others in their life in a healthy way.
- try having a gratitude time in the car, before dinner, at bedtime where you can list a few things you are grateful for and then ask kids to do the same.
- encourage them to express appreciation to family, teachers, and others who contribute to their lives.
5- Teach them to see the big picture
Encourage your child to consider the perspectives and feelings of others, especially those who may be vulnerable. Give them simple ideas for taking action, such as comforting a kid who was teased or reaching out to the new kid in class. Discuss engaging topics about some people's hardships, like different experiences of children in other parts of the world, or right in your own community.
Disclosure: this is a good article, but I don't like the magazine source and its ads, etc....