Try to give statements that reinforce, for example:
- How do you feel about meeting your goal?
- I see you've improved from before, would you like to choose a reward?
There are many little rewards you can give your child. The following are some ideas I had, based on how we did with our own children. Little rewards are the kind you might give daily or a few times a week. These can be given by a parent, older sibling, grandparent, etc., depending on your family's dynamics.
- 5 extra minutes of cuddle time
- extra playtime with a family member
- help make dinner with a family member
- walk and talk with a family member--10 minutes or around the block, etc.
- read to student (5-10 extra minutes, a chapter or a small book)
- choose their dinner seat, TV show, family game, etc. for that evening
- coloring or creating art together
- special projects to learn more about a favorite subject
Big rewards should be saved for when the student has a bigger celebration: you get great feedback from the school/daycare/your family that a skill has improved for behavior or feelings' management, your child has graduated from a program like our Check in, Check out, they have become a peer helper, and more! Those bigger rewards have to fit the time and money budget for each family but could include:
- ice cream from Baskin Robbins, frozen yogurt shop, etc.
- dinner out (for bigger celebrations)
- movie night
- picnic at the park
- a trip to a different park to explore the play structure or to have some family fun
- a special night with one parent, or both, with or without siblings.
The bottom line is not to spend too much or to "spoil" your child with things, but to give them the gift of your time. They will blossom with that. It is hard in this day and age to just focus on your child and not be pulled into your phone or household things. It doesn't have to be a lot of time. Have fun!